Wanted: Stress Free Boomer Bubble Pad

A boomer bubble pad that is warm and cozy in the winter, cool and light in the summer would be wonderful. Since I have tried meditation, exercise, healthy eating, vacations, life style changes, geographical changes, yoga, finding my purpose, job changes, and many other things this seems to be the only answer. Retirement Communities

This is a great time to write this blog because it is almost 1 a.m. in the morning and I have been unable to get to sleep.  Earlier, I wanted to write a blog and for some reason could not get in here to write it.  As I lay in bed thinking about it sleep would not come but stress did.  I decided to give it another try.  Now I am not computer literate so I tried a few things.  Here I am now. I got here by going the long way around but it sure does go with my blog title.  Lately, I have been reading  a lot about how we boomers should alleviate stress from our lives to be healthier and happier.  Of course I totally agree with that but I have been thinking maybe I should rent a stress free bubble boomer pad.  Remember when we use to call our living place a pad.  Yes, definitely that is what I need!

This is the only way that I can figure out how to keep the stress away from me in today’s world.  It may sound a little crazy but I am ready to go to any lengths for de-stressing and living that healthy life.

A bubble pad that is warm and cozy in the winter, cool and light in the summer would be wonderful.  Since I have tried meditation, exercise, healthy eating, vacations, life style changes, geographical changes, yoga, finding my purpose, job changes, and many other things this seems to be the only answer. Retirement Communities

Just like tonight, I turn on the computer to write and there was no writing place…stress.  Then I turned on the news and heard the President was going to hold up social security checks…stress.  I lifted my foot up in bed and found it swollen…stress.  I turned on face book and read where several of my friends were ill…stress.  I reached for a nice piece of fruit from my refrigerator and none was there…stress.  Then to top it all off with my chocolate ice cream container was empty…stress.  I took the dog out to do her thing and the hot air from dangerous temperatures over took my breathing… stress.  My garbage disposal stopped working… stress.  I ran a warm bath to relax and found I was out of my favorite bubble bath plus TP…stress.  The check book is getting low since I have been out on sick leave…stress.

Then what about all those articles saying that we single boomer women are really going to have it rough as far as trying to retire?….stress.

Therefore if I can find a stress free boomer bubble pad without television, computers, garbage disposals and such, things would be stress free, right?  There would be just me, no fruit, no ice cream, no nothing but me in the stress free boomer bubble pad with no job, no friends, no life. Oh my it just dawned on me, NO SWEETIE MY precious DOG FRIEND.

On second thought forget this idea about a stress free boomer bubble pad.  My imagination has really gotten the better of me tonight.  Boomers we are going to deal with this stress and learn to pace, calm and enjoy what we can in life.  After all who wants to really live in a bubble.  That would be very lonely, not living.  There is the answer!  We all are in this thing called life together and we will deal with it.  We will enjoy the small things and the adventure.  If by chance there is such a thing as a stress free boomer bubble pad we can watch our grandkids play in it.  They would have a ball.

Seriously though, I do think there should be a warning sign that comes on prior to the news that says, “WARNING; WATCHING AND LISTENING COULD CAUSE STRESS AND BE DANGEROUS TO YOUR HEALTH.”   Actually after that statement it might be best if I just crawled over here to my nice soft clean bed and got rest.  This stinking thinking has gone a bit far and yes those thoughts do get us in trouble sometimes.  🙂

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Originally posted 2011-07-13 06:37:38.

Baby Boomer’s Housing Trends

We have observed these 10 Baby Boomer housing trends. Boomers are not doing as some expected in regards to their housing. Links in the items listed go to more details.

1. Many Baby Boomers love seasonal homes in resort locations. Living in a seasonal home for two to six months then returning to their primary home. Some seasonal homes are owned but many are short term rentals. Most seasonal homes are in warmer locations. Most are in resort locations including active adult communities.

2. One level living is a must because of potential mobility issues and safety concerns. This style is referred to as “ranch style” homes. Continue reading “Baby Boomer’s Housing Trends”

Originally posted 2018-10-01 13:41:51.

Don’t Be a Baby Boomer Know It All

After age 50 Boomers can feel like you have done it all – and you probably have. It’s the “been there done that” feeling and attitude. But don’t become a boomer know it all. Here’s how.

After age 50 you can feel like you have done it all – and you probably have.  It’s the “been there done that” feeling and attitude.  A lifetime of experiences remain with us boomers and we recall them to help us deal with life today and sometimes to share with others to guide them with our lessons learned.

At this stage of life you can feel confident in what you are doing and feel you can handle anything thrown at you. But if you think you always have the right comprehension of every situation, you may be a know it all.

If you have an opinion on everything regardless if you actually know anything about the subject, you may be a “know it all”.

Know it alls like to bombard their ideas and perils of wisdom to impress and show their perceived superior knowledge of a subject to elevate themselves above others. (Sounds like most of the talking heads on TV doesn’t it!)

Know it alls have a way of putting others down by implication since obviously they know it all and you know nothing except what is learned from them.

Sometimes we Boomers use our experience to give “what you should do..” advice to those younger than us.  Too much of this can be tiring to those on the receiving end and will qualify you for the “know it all” moniker.

So what can you do to overcome being viewed as  a “know it all”?

Be a lifelong learner curious to learn new things and asking questions to gain more knowledge.   Being a student rather than a teacher.  A know it all attitude will make it harder to learn.

Realize you can’t impart your knowledge just by giving a discourse of what you know.  You can spark an interest in learning in others and let them learn from their own experiences.

Don’t do all the talking or be overbearing when talking with a less experienced younger person.  This will result in the other party not contributing to the discussion because you already know it all.

At this age do you really need to impress others with an impression you know everything.

It seems the older you get the more we reflect back and recall some boomer stories of our life experiences from our past.  But in conversations with younger people when listening to one of their current experiences don’t try to top it by telling your story about doing the same thing (only bigger or better).

Be humble and respect other people’s views and experiences.  You may actually learn something.   If you don’t know something, say so.

Realize your comprehension of truth is yours but others may have a different comprehension from their experience. Respect differences.

These are some things that I will try to keep in mind myself so I don’t appear as a know it all. I would love to hear your comments and suggestions.

Someone said “I retired from being a know it all, it was too hard to keep up!”

Originally posted 2014-05-26 10:09:07.

A Passion For An Active Life

We only moved into the Del Webb Community north of Atlanta not long ago but I already have noticed something interesting. People are really passionate about their activities.

For example, I attended a meeting of each of these clubs where the passion was on display with the members. They really get into it, going into details beyond what I thought. The degree of passion and zest they have for these activities was surprising. The club members could be professionals in these activities but in most cases they are doing it not for money but because they love doing it. They give their attention, time and resources to these activities to be the best they can be.

Here are the clubs I attended during the first two weeks.

1. Photographers – Ralph the instructor is a professional photographer and resident. Before the meeting,  the members were gathering around Ralph who was showing them the coffee table book he had just published of his photos of this trip to Iceland. The professional quality book was great and had wonderful photos. Wow!

There were 12 members present and they had an assignment the week before to photograph a subject (old log cabin nearby) and then to edit the image using the editing software they had been learning. Ralph used a slide projector to show the images and it was explained how they were edited. Suggestions were made for other edits and improvements. The members were really into it!

2. Coin Collecting – Next up I attended the Coin Collectors meeting. A resident who was a former stock broker showed us a list of coins he just had Hertiage Coins auction off. The list totaled $90,000 in value. These were his duplicates. Several interesting tips were discussed included how to get an appraisal to donate your collection to a charity rather than selling and then donating the money, an update on the coin market including demographic changes affecting it, avoid cleaning coins and more. One member had some inherited gold coins and suggestions were given as to how to value them.

At the end of the meeting I was chatting with some members about other things we collect.  I told them about my collection of Nineteenth Century Exposition Medals.

A fellow told us about his collection of antique movie posters which was on display in a show in Wisconsin.  These members really get into it!

3. Dancing – Mary Ann and I started the beginner line dancing class which follows the intermediate class and the advanced class. Getting to class early we watched the intermediate class finish up and they were good! The members then took off their dancing shoes and put of their street shoes. They were laughing and excited even after an hour of dancing. Later I spoke with a neighbor who is a member of this ballroom dancing club. When I told him we were learning the Waltz line dance he wanted to know the song we danced to and when I was not forthcoming with the answer he suggested three waltz songs, actually singing two of them to help me remember. These members really get into it!

4. Writers Group – This may be the most interesting group I attended. Three days ago I attended the writers group and at the coffee pot before the meeting, I met fellow resident William Cassill who recently released his first book, which tells the true story of a remarkable friendship between a mallard duck and a snow goose. “Free To Fly” is about his experiences while running a Vermont country inn with his wife. I had just read about this book. Wow.

The meeting included about 9 residents and all were writers, authors of books or writing a book. One resident owns a books store and showed us several books she had published or help publish including information on the publishing companies and cost. A member passed out three of her short stories to be reviewed. The group is looking to start a web site to display their writings and books and I shared some ideas with them. I have been spending some time thinking about web site ideas to share in our next meeting.

A member suggested the group take the on-line course “Start Writing  Fiction” and the members including me agreed to start this course and share our first short story with the class next meeting. The Writers Group meets every Thursday from 9:30am until 11am. I was surprised they meet every week, but I see that this is a very active group. These members really get into it!

These are only 4 clubs out of nearly 100 clubs at The Village at Deaton Creek. I can see right now that you cannot possibility do it all. But it is exciting to know choosing the clubs that really interest me will give the opportunity to get involved like these folks do with something I am passionate about.

This is going to be fun! That is why we moved here.
Robert and Mary Ann Fowler

Originally posted 2019-06-06 09:08:11.

Boomers Road Of Life

Roads carry us to many places.. We travel them daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly. They get us to where we are going. Some have many curves, hills, mountains, peaks, valleys, and detours. Others may be narrow, wide, whining, smooth, or rocky. If we stay on a road sooner or later we get where we are going. Depending on conditions as we travel, we may have to vary or change our course. We may have to stop many times and review our maps. There are even times when obstacles may arise and we may have to choose a different direction to reach our destination. At times we may speed quickly while other times our travel goes very slow depending on many conditions at the time.

Just like the roads that we travel daily, Boomers travel the road of life. We have experienced rocky places,curves, peaks, valleys and detours. We have seen war times in our younger years and now. Some Boomers have climbed to the peaks in their careers while others fell to the valley during the recession. Boomers have experienced loss in divorces or by death of a spouse. We have seen children grow and leave us with an empty nest. Other boomers may have acclaimed fame and prosperity. In our early years we were there when President John F.Kennedy and Nobel Peace Price winner, Martin Luther King, were assassinated. We were there when the first man landed on the moon. We continued our life journey as computers first came into our offices to replace the old type writers. Some of our favorite music has changed. Some our television favorite comedians,movie stars, song writers and singers are no longer with us.

In today’s world we are now looking at our maps again as we go into our retirement years. Retirement may mean that we continue working or make a job change. Some will be heading to small towns to start a small business.. Others may be leaving the small town to join their grown children in city living. Those that are single may be considering dating again or finding new social activities at senior centers, churches and in over 55 communities. Couples may be preparing to travel the world and experience things that they have never experienced before. Many boomers are contacting colleges to take courses of interest or finish a degree. There are boomers that are having to pick themselves up, brush themselves off and start all over again. Boomers are making choices to age in places or make geographical changes to live out their retirement age years.

Yes it is true. Most roads are not clear and all smooth as we would want them to be. Regardless of that fact, boomers will continue on their journey. We will do what we need to do. We will use our maps, our life experiences and persist in these changing times. We will meet health challenges just like those before us did. We will face our day to day living with pride and dignity. We will continue to make a difference in the world that we live.  We will continue on the Boomer Road of Life!

With that said, I would like to end with a poem written by Robert Frost. The poem has been analyzed in many ways and was one of his best but tricky.  See if you can figure it out!

The Road Not Taken
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay,

In leaves no step had trodden black.

OH, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence”

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference

Resource: Poets.org.

Originally posted 2011-04-28 12:48:35.

My First Visit to A Senior Center

I wanted to visit a senior center to see what they were about. My neighbor’s 75 year old mother Janet is an active participant in the ballroom dancing program at West Cobb Senior Center so I decided that would be a good center to visit. Janet is a traveler, takes cruises, collects antique dolls and is a dealer also, is a ballroom dancer and her home has many unique antiques which she has collected. She is an interesting person so this Senior Center must be OK. They have a ballroom dance practice from 1 to 4pm so I plan to be there a 1pm.

I wanted to visit a senior center to see what they were about.  My neighbor’s 75 year old mother Janet is an active participant in the ballroom dancing program at West Cobb Senior Center so I decided that would be a good center to visit.   Janet is a traveler, takes cruises, collects antique dolls and is a dealer also, is a ballroom dancer and her home has many unique antiques which she has collected.  She is an interesting person so this Senior Center must be OK.  They have a ballroom dance practice from 1 to 4pm so I plan to be there at 1pm.

Even thought there are many senior centers close by to me,  I take the hour long trip from Johns Creek Georgia over through Roswell to Marietta down Whitlock Ave then out a long stretch of Dallas Hwy.  Right when my MapQuest says, there it is as I turn left in to the entrance of Cobb County Parks and Recreation campus.   The sign says West Cobb Senior Center as I turn in to a nearly full park lot facing a attractive lodge type building.   Nicely dress people are zooming in the lot and hurrying in to the building.  Must be the dancers.   I enter to an attractive large lobby with stack stone fireplace and people zooming by me to sign in.  The place is abuzz with activity.

A lady at the open administrative office spots me looking over the information table and introduces herself as Cristina, the Program Specialist.  I let Cristina know I am here to check out the center and meet Janet at the 1pm dance program.  I am early so Cristina gives me lots of information about the senior center activities.

There are about 18 people sitting around a large conference table in a room across the lobby from where we are talking and Cristina tells me that is a meeting of the Great Ideas Book Club.  Later I take a walk down the right wing of the building and see two more similar conference rooms with equal amounts of people sitting around the conference table.   These I find out later are the Woodcarvers Club and the Shutterbugs Club.   Another two rooms I spot gamers,  playing Mah Jongg and Scrabble.  Lots of mental stimulation going on today.

Christina tells me the West Cobb Senior Center is an active adult multi-purpose center open to anyone 55 or better.  You do not have to live in the country to use the center.  They have people ages 55 to 92 using the center.  It is well used, I must say.   Besides the activity in the center it is located in the Parks and Recreation area with walking trails and ball fields nearby.   In addition to dancing, the center has  two yoga classes that are fully attended and exercise programs to keep participate active physically.

At the end of the end of the right wing, Cristina tells me to visit the Billiards room which I do and see 5 tables in a nicely decorated room.  A group of 5 men are playing pool at one of the tables.

Christina hands me “The Leaflet” which lists all the programs and activities of the center is offering for the month and  I am astounded at the quality and the number.   Wellness seminars, trips, health screenings and tons of classes.  I see they have a trip to Atlanta’s historic Fox Theater planned.  These were equal or better than those offered in the Del Webb Active Adult Communities I have visited.   I am impressed.

It’s now 1pm so I head down the left wing of the building to a grand ballroom where I hope to see Janet.  There are nicely dressed dancers signing in and greeting each other with hugs.  It is a nice large comfortable room.   A man who must be the greeter comes over and introduces  himself and welcomes me.  He’s thinking I’m a dancer, but I tell him I was looking for Janet.  He says Janet usually gets there at a later time.  The sound equipment is now set up and the first few dancers are on the dance floor twirling to the music.  I watch for a few minutes and head back to say goodbye to Cristina.

On the drive back I am thinking it sure would be nice to have the West Cobb Senior Center close by to me.   My impression is way better than I had in mind before making this visit to a senior center.   I can see where Senior Centers could be and are an asset to anyone who uses them, encouraging us to be active both mentally and physically.  I am sure not all Senior Centers are alike and offer as much as this one did.  But still is shows me what is possible and changes my uninformed image of a Senior Center. I will check out the new Johns Creek Senior Center that is being built near me for sure and some other seniors center in Georgia.

Robert Fowler
SeniorCenterDirectory.com

Originally posted 2017-02-07 09:23:00.