Baby Boomers Get Older and Happier

I have been reading a good book titled “Older And Happier!” by Dag Sebastian Ahlander.  He has 109 handy ideas for living life to the fullest. It’s about living the good retirement life from his perspective as a happy old man.

As a retired person and a student of retirement, I could relate to so many of Dag’s ideas. They are simple but effective. Here are some of my favorites.

1. Keep in mind that time is short but life is long

He reminds us that we have had a long life and seen so many changes and events. It is not that life is short, but the time remaining is short.

He reminds us to grab hold of life right now and make something great of what is left. The road doesn’t go on forever and we are on the homestretch.

2. First and foremost: be a happy old man!

The most important is to accept your age and enjoy it’s many opportunities. Greet each morning with smile. Everything depends on your attitude and health. Let your perspective expand. Accept life’s terms and make the best of them. Forget all the bad things that have happen in your life and just move on.

3. Don’t Downsize

This is an interesting one to me since I just bought a retirement home the same size as my current home, so I must agree. He says you will need a bigger space now, because you can finally enjoy it for guests, hobbies, computer room.

4. Don’t become a micromanagement guru

I like this one. He days don’t dwell on the small things like you did for years at work. Try to see the bigger picture. Throw out old papers and things that never gave you pleasure. Don’t hoard.

5. Live in the present

Nothing says old age like living in the past. Don’t fight the times. Everything didn’t used to be better.

6. Let go of former prestige.

Men especially have identified too heavily with our careers. Give it up. The hierarchies are gone, how liberating! Talk with each other on a level field and you will have a more active social life.

Wow, that is only 6 of the 109 ideas in Dag’s book about being happy in retirement. Of course he goes into more details about the above points and others in the book. Any baby boomer leading up to retirement should read his boomer book to pick up on some of his helpful ideas. Those of us who are already in retirement can nod in agreement and be reminded of what we have learned on our own and to BE HAPPY.

 

 

Originally posted 2015-01-07 16:39:02.

Quiet, Boomers Becoming Introverts

Just finished the best selling book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. The book gave some really good insights into introverts; many of which you probably already know but some new ones that gives introverts a little bit more respect.

The author says one third to one half of us are introverts.   The first chapter begins with the story of Rosa Parks refusing to give up her seat on a bus.  All she said was “no”.  That helped changed the world.   Other introverts are Bill Gates,  Eleanor Roosevelt,  and Warren Buffet.  In Asian cultures introversion is not looked down on, it is accepted and even highly respected and admired.

Americans hold up the ideal to be extroverts.  People who used to work in the fields in agriculture and did  not talk unless they had something to say; but starting with the movement to cities and  factory jobs people had to work closely to other people and to be sociable. .  Becoming an extrovert escalated  as the ideal with office jobs and then professionals selling themselves as well as their products.   Extroverts are the business model ideal.  Dale Carnegie taught us how to influence others with our talk and we all became salesmen.

Whatever you start out as, introvert or extrovert, you usually maintain your whole life as your natural state.  However many people do become extroverts in their jobs because they have to.  For short times in social situations introverts can rise to the occasion to become extroverts and fool everyone.  However then they need their down time to repair and restore their energy.

The author says introverts are just as creative, just as smart maybe smarter, just as motivated and just as accomplished as extroverts.  But many times introverts do not get the credit for their accomplishments; they do not like to blow their own horns so to speak and do not like attention on them.   Introverts are more sensitive and are more observant than others.  They can see things others cannot.

It is pointed out that we should not try to change kids who are introverts; but respect them for who they are and provide an environment where they can excel in their own way.

In retirement many natural introverts who spent much of their time as extroverts at their jobs, may revert back to their nature state as introverts.   It is still important to socialize they tell us but we can do that in our own way (finally!).

Originally posted 2012-04-02 09:58:55.

Boomer Book Review: Stuck In The Passing Lane

This blog gets the interest from publishers of books that appeal to Baby Boomers, so I got the book “Stuck in the Passing Lane? by Jed Ringel to review.

I do love to read and fortunately for me this book is only 275 pages since I am not the fastest reader in the world. Also the book’s storyline moved right along because it was easy to read and interesting.

The book is story about a guy in his 50’s that is newly divorced after 23 years of marriage and his exploits with women which he finds on dating sites. But it is more than that as he explains how his life has changed so quickly and he has no one to keep him in check, so he does what he wants to.

He is retired so he has the time and he was a Wall Street lawyer so he has the money so he starts a life that quickly becomes out of control. He self corrects from time to time, joining AA to curb his problem with alcohol but the Internet dating goes into full swing and is what he is living for.

He explains each meeting with the woman he meets on the dating site and how he sizes them up and either cuts the meeting short and or continues with the date. The dating even includes a Russian date with a trip to Russian that does not turn out like he imagines.

Anyone, especially boomer men 50+ will get a kick out of reading of his dating escapades. The author has a humorous and self defecating attitude, seemingly knowing this may not be working out for him.

If you are happily married is this how your life would go if you find yourself unmarried for some reason? Will this be a dream life for Jed or a recipe for unhappiness? Read “Stuck In The Passing Lane” to find out the surprising conclusion.

Review by Robert Fowler

Book: Stuck In The Passing Lane
Author: Jed Ringel
Author website: jedringel.com
ISBN: 978-0-9862550-0-7

Originally posted 2015-07-06 16:36:21.