Age Is Just A Number

There is a popular meme that says “Age is just a number”.  That means age doesn’t matter, it’s your outlook and attitude that matters. Is that true?

As we older baby boomers start turning age 71, age does seem to matter less. We have passed the milestones of age 55 for getting senior discounts, age 65 for getting medicare and age 70 for starting our required minimal distributions for withdrawing part of our IRAs.

Whereas in high school our friends were within one or two class grades of us, now we have friends of all different ages.  We can hang out with people a decade younger than us or a couple of decades older than us.

We are also reminded that age is just a number when we see the different conditions of people the same age. That is physical, mental, emotional, financial, you name it. We are all over the place on the spectrum. Age matters less than other things that effected our lives, doesn’t it.

On the other hand, time marches on. If you are turning 71 now, you will hopefully be turning 81 in 10 short years and 90 in 19 years.  Think back 10 years to 2007 and how long ago that was. Not very long, it was like yesterday!

Age does take it’s toll on us, no doubt. No one is immune from it’s effects. Aging gracefully with a positive attitude takes an effort, no doubt.

We are all in this together.  We are loosing spouses and classmates to death. My high school class has a Facebook page set up for death announcements and I got another notification this morning. Long time friends get dementia and it could happen to you or your spouse as well. There are no guarantees, but we know that by now.

Yes, there are a lot of things for us older baby boomers to worry about.

But there is also a lot of things to enjoy and look forward to. By this time a lot of you are enjoying your grand and great grand kids. I see people going to the gym, walking, hiking and enjoying the outdoors.  I just came back from the National Senior Games and am motivated by what I saw there. People are volunteering and supporting things they believe in.  Some people are enjoying their church families. Here at our 55+ Active Adult Communities, people really like to travel and see the world. People like to keep learning their whole lifetime and it’s nice to be able to learn something not work related, something that you have an interest in. Many people like to read, some just to meditate, some like to putter around, but  doing what you like to do is something to enjoy.  I could keep going.

Age is a number, but we can deal with it. Enjoy the day. No use in putting things off. The future is now. Do something you like to do. Travel while you can. Learn something new. Walk in the park. Help someone. Be active. Peace.

Robert Fowler

Originally posted 2017-06-15 05:57:03.

Professional Caregiving, From a Boomer Perspective

A lot of Boomers are being forced to reinvent their life in order to finish well. I am one of those Second Act or Encore Boomers. I had thought it out, processed the many pieces of the puzzle and came to the conclusion that professional caregiving would be the perfect match for me at this time in my life.

 A lot of Boomers are being forced to reinvent their life in order to finish well. I am one of those Second Act or Encore Boomers.

Professional Caregiver My Perfect Match

Last year brought the dreaded pink slip. As a Boomer about to turn sixty, this event really threw me into an emotional funk. Shortly after the good bye notice I started my Boomer blog. I felt a lot of other Boomer’s were very probably facing the same situation. I wanted to have a blog that would give Boomer’s a place to sound off, encourage one another and help each other find a way off their floating iceberg. It actually ended up being very cathartic for me and as I was trying to help others, I helped myself. By December, I had thought it out, processed the many pieces of the puzzle and came to the conclusion that professional care giving would be the perfect match for me at this time in my life.

Now, two months into my new caregiver career, I am loving it!!. I work at a very nice assisted living facility as a caregiver/sitter. These are assisted living residents that need a little extra assistance with getting through their day for various reasons. There can be times of recuperation from a hospital stay or a need for someone to assist them with various prescribed therapies or even a dementia resident that needs some stimulation/companion. As a consumer, the good part about going through an assisted living facility or an agency that provide these services, is of course some security in knowing that the caregiver has to have a background check, take a tuberculosis test, have a CPR certificate, plus some training in caregiving.

As a Boomer caregiver, I find it very easy to empathize for and with the patient in their struggles with declining abilities. I have formed a bond with my one “regular” patient. Personally, I cannot see how one can care for another and not form some attachment. I would only advise this as a career choice for those who find it easy to give love, care and concern to others. My regular enjoys a hug every day. Human touch is important even at 101 and eighty-eight pounds soaking wet.

About The Snarky Boomer

I’m a “Baby Boomer” of 1951. I started writing online in 2004 for my business website. Since 2004 I have written several personal blogs and other business websites. In 2007 I was writing bid proposals, as partner in a software start up company. In 2008 I wrote a few eHow articles before the days of Demand Studio. I have over 20+ years of entrepreneurial and business experience. University of Georgia-Business, Psychology and Marketing, along with a folder full of certificates and seminars too long to list. I am a person who gets really excited learning and researching interesting places or a new project.

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“Since my mother has moved into an assisted living place she has started eating healthier thanks to the caregivers.  She is  interacting with others and caregiving has improved her life. She’s doing great.  Thanks.”

Senior assisted living facility

Originally posted 2012-03-03 13:33:06.

Healthy Eating Tips

Healthy Eating Tips by Working Boomer. Here are some things that I have done to eat more healthy. Thus far it is working for me.

Today I was reflecting back to the good ole days and my eating habits.  In the small town where I was raised, we enjoyed southern cooking as many folks did in Arkansas, Louisiana, Georgia, and Mississippi.  There was battered cod and catfish. They were fried to a golden brown in tons of shortening or lard.  At other times there was fried salmon mixed with onions, rolled in corn meal and deep fried until the salmon cake was crispy on the outside.  My mother fried fish in an iron skillet, not a modern day Fry Daddy.  For side dishes we had deep fried potatoes with lots of salt.  Of course there was slaw.  The dressing was made from real mayonnaise mixed with lots of sugar.  For dessert, there were fresh baked pies and peach cobbler.  The pie dough was made from white flour and shortening.  A  great dessert contained lots of sugar.  The desserts were topped with homemade ice cream.  Yummy, yes it was!  Good ole down home cooking with a mouth watering taste and a  wonderful aroma could not be beat.  I can almost smell and taste it now!

Then there was the greasy spoon diner on the corner, where friends met up on a Saturday night.  They served the best double cheese burgers that money could buy for twenty-five cents.  The buns were dripping with real butter and the cheese rolled off the side down onto the plate.  If we had an extra nickle we had the waitress coat our greasy french fries with American cheese too.  For a drink, there was that non diet Lotta Cola.  Yes, that is what I am talking about; good ole down home, mouth watering, tummy filling, baby boomer, eating back in the good ole days!  We ate well but I did not say healthy.

Here it is fifty years later.  Yes boomers, get ready because I have to write about healthy eating today.  Let’s get serious.  A healthy diet is important.  By eating healthy we can maintain a good weight.  It will help prevent heart disease, diabetes, improve our digestive system, give us more energy, better bones and improves pain that goes along with arthritis.  Some foods even help with head aches. Many healthy foods help improve the blood circulation in our bodies.

Since I am not a dietitian or physician, I suggest you talk with your doctor about the type foods that you should eat.  The American Heart Association has many good suggestions too and can be found on line.

Eating Healthy Is Working For Me

Here are some things that I have done to eat more healthy. Thus far it is working for me.

  • I do not use lard, oil, butter or shortening for cooking.  Instead, I use virgin olive oil or non stick heart healthy olive oil pan spray.  Virgin olive oil has many benefits in a healthy diet.  The other things do not!
  • Since nothing is fried in my home, the Fry Daddy and iron skillet are history.  A non stick skillet works just fine for egg beater eggs, whites only.  I limit my salt intake and use salt substitutes.   Forget bacon, sausage and white country gravy because that is history too.
  • My tuna is no longer mixed with mayonnaise.  Fish consists of baked salmon and sardines.  This is a great way to get those healthy Omega 3’s that we need.  Omega 3 helps the heart, joint pain, and even has been known to help with depression. It also appears to have given me more energy.  I even have had some healthy weight loss.    Along with this, I take Omega 3 supplements to improve my triglycerides.  Then to help lower my cholesterol, I add a supplement of guggul and red yeast rice plus CoQ10.  Oh, and by the way, these pills are not too bad because they are coated with lemon so there is no fishy taste.
  • I still have slaw but no dressing that is not healthy.  Many of my meals consists of raw vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, green peppers, and leafy vegetables such as lettuce and turnip greens.  I put a few nuts and bacon bits in my salad for flavor.I use different seasonings made by Mr. Dash which is salt free.
  • The pies and cobblers have been replaced with healthy fruits.  An apple in oatmeal for breakfast is not only good but very healthy.

The Lotta cola no long exists but soda does.  Since I limit my intake of sugar, I find that water and juices are much healthier for me.  Now and then a fruit smoothie hits the spot.  Then there are those nice yogurts too which can be eaten to produce energy.  Sometimes adding whole wheat cereal gives it a little crunch.  Whole wheat is healthy too.

Yes, I have to be honest!  Every once in awhile I cheat but not a lot.  If I do, I don’t beat myself up.  Instead, I get right back to healthy eating at the next meal.  I try to stay positive.  The supplements taste better than the cod liver oil that mother use to give me when I was a kid.  Ugh!:(   Healthy eating is much better than the side effects of many medicines.  The energy that I have gained helps me to be happier.  My skin is glowing. 🙂   My clothes fit much better from the pounds that I have lost.  I can walk faster without getting out of breath.  My blood pressure is at an all time low level.  Not to mention, if at all possible, I may live to retire someday and hopefully avoid the nursing home.  Also I even read where eating healthy can help our brains.  Maybe then it will improve my memory so that I can write more stories as life goes on.

Happy eating boomers!  What are you doing to change your life style?  Get ready because next time I just might write about the importance of exercise as we continue our baby boomer journey.

Everyday Health Tips from WorkingBoomer

Boomers: Losing Weight After 50 | Using Boomer Wisdom To Be Healthy Health Care Tips for Baby Boomers

Originally posted 2012-03-01 08:18:53.

Don’t Take Life for Granted. Live It!

“Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find ”tomorrow” on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday’s defeats and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, ”If I had my life to live over again. ”Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day! Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.”

Og Mandino quotes

So quickly we humans can forget how important it is to care, use kindness, understanding and love.  How quickly we can wish for a reward only for ourselves.  How quickly we can forget in a moment of anger, despair, or chaos just how important life is.  Take the time to LOVE. Take the time to SHARE. Take the time to give THANKS.   Take the time to use KINDNESS.  Take the time to show Understanding. Take the time to allow yourself to be HUMAN.  Take the time to allow others their right to be human.  Take the time To hold anther’s  HAND.  Take the time to speak the word LOVE.  Take the time to show someone you  CARE!  Give a HUG.  We have but one life.  Life is a Gift.  Lift your face to the the sky and let your Heart sing!

Originally posted 2010-12-12 23:41:20.

Rick Bava Interview – Baby Boomers

I just listened to my friend Rick Bava’s interview with Hollis Chapman on Blog Talk Radio. I encourage you to take a listen. Rick wrote the book In Search of The Baby Boomer Generation.

Here is my email to Rick about the interview: Rick, I got up early this morning and just enjoyed  listening to your interview with Hollis Chapman. I will start sharing on our social media so others can enjoy it also.  May do a blog post about it.

It was relevant and introspective which made it interesting.  You are a great speaker as well as writer. 

I like that it was comprehensive yet the best part for me was that you addressed  the current challenges of baby boomers and commented on our way forward,  because I believe that is  what we are mindful of currently and really what people want to hear more about.

Both you and Hollis made  good  points about boomers transitioning  to something they want to do to make  a little money and on their terms hopefully while giving back a little. This gives  their life a sense of purpose.  The importance of social security really hits home when you are in your 60’s as you pointed out and yes we started the working from home trend some  time ago.   I became self employed working from home  way back in 1992 and loved it after  working for the big corporations in office complexes.

I especially liked your emphasis on boomers family connections.  Many of us older boomers no longer have  living parents but we are,  as  you say, reconnecting with siblings  with family outings and holidays and either on  social media, texting and old fashioned phone calls. Many siblings  are  having some health problems and  that rallies the remaining  family  together. Past disputes  don’t seem to matter so much anymore.  Let bygones be bygones.

Finally the future of baby boomers section of the interview had me jotting down notes because it was spot on relevant.  Everything  you mentioned could be a topic of  it’s own. Preparing ourselves for  the future as you pointed out includes return to family  and taking care of living parents, spending time with grandchildren,  reconnecting with siblings as pointed out.  You mentioned connecting with college friends.  My college roommate from back  in 1969-70 called me out of the blue last week  and we had a great time sharing memories.

Also included in that category of preparing ourselves for the future would be getting our affairs  in order.  Updating or doing a  last will and living will is something I  see happening. Downsizing and getting rid of stuff you no longer need and getting your housing age friendly are something I  see us boomers have  been doing.

Thanks for much for doing this interview and sharing.  I am  also glad to learn of Hollis podcast  and will take a listen to some of his other shows.

We will be in touch.
Robert Fowler
Retirement Media Inc.
BoomerPlaces.com  

Originally posted 2020-10-22 07:28:11.

Boomers are Seniors. Really?

Boomers Becoming Seniors

Back when I started retiring at age 58 I bristled at being called a senior.  I didn’t mind taking a senior discount but please don’t call me a senior, especially a senior citizen. I even called the major’s office and suggest they named the new center “Active Adult Center” rather than just a “Senior Center” and they agreed and did that.  I protested on facebook that boomers would never be seniors, we are just different, and need a new name or simply call us Boomers.

Fast forward 6 years to today and I have changed my mind about that.  Getting ready to turn 65 in a few months, I now accept that being called a senior is not too bad.  I still don’t think the “senior citizen” applies too well to the baby boomer generation.   I love to ask for the “senior discount” every chance I get.  If senior means being over the age of 55 or 60, then so be it.  So a baby boomer forever but now a new title, that of “Senior”.  They even renamed the center to “Senior Adult Center” and that’s OK with me.

I had written an article Senior Communities Here Come the Boomers about how it’s starting to change to accommodate incoming baby boomers and someone commented: Boomers are Seniors. I agree, even though Boomer Seniors are not the same as the Senior Citizens of the older generations.  So I think the article was correct, that there will be some changes in retirement communities to accommodate our baby boomer needs and wants as we become Seniors. On another post I made the same type point that Boomers are Replacing Seniors on Cruises and cruises are becoming less formal and more to the boomers taste.

Senior Citizen Age

According to Wikipedia, the age for the status of “Senior Citizen” is the age which one qualifies for government social security benefits, that traditionally being age 65.  They also say “Senior Citizen” is a polite term for an “elderly person”.   Also if you are retired, you might be a “senior citizen”.  In my book, let’s just take it one step at a time and stay with “senior” for a while before getting into “senior citizen” or “elderly person”.  Not ready for those quite yet.

Boomers Are Seniors

In marketing you see a real mixture of the terms boomers and seniors.  Interestingly AARP’s web site title includes the term “Baby Boomers” but nothing at all about “Seniors”.  AARP membership is open to age 50.  Some other marketing materials including web sites use terms like “older persons”, “the retired”, and “mature”  but commonly use both “boomers and seniors” just to have the bases covered and not to target just one age demographic.  In truth, there is not one solid senior generation anymore, but several groups including us older so-called leading edge boomers, seniors from the silent generation who grew up in the 40’s and 50’s and the boomers’ parents, the so-called Greatest Generation.

Conclusion

At the end of the day this labeling seems to be the domain of the marketing types as they try to reach us boomers becoming seniors and supply what we are looking for.  The way a product is labelled does matter and can help us determine if it’s what we are looking for.   But there is no longer a big enough difference between the terms boomers and seniors to make a difference but that is not the point.  The point is that this whole process will be changing and will be disruptive and who knows what the final outcome will be. There will be changes made to accommodate the boomers becoming seniors. When will boomers retire, where will they retire to and in what type of retirement housing will we live in?  No one knows for certain yet, but it will not the same for the boomers now becoming seniors as it has been for other older groups.  Nor should it be.  The boomer generation has changed everything else along the way, now it our time to define senior living.

Update: Now at age 67 it makes even less difference. The name boomers has held up pretty good but some of the establishment still calls us seniors. Whatever. 🙂

Originally posted 2014-10-08 13:03:46.