Boomer Wisdom: The Doers, The Gonna Dos and The You Should Do People

I have been thinking about people and have narrowed my thoughts to three different types of people. There are the Doer’s, the Gonna Do’s and the You Should Do folks.

There is a blizzard going on where I live right at this moment.  Highways have been shut down. The National Guard has been called out.  The American Red Cross have set up Emergency Stations.  The  blizzard has given me some think time.  I have been thinking about people and have narrowed my thoughts to three different types of people.  There are the Doers, the Gonna Dos and the You Should Do folks.

The doers seem to always be busy.  They work hard at getting things done and take pride in their accomplishments.  Some work fast paced jobs which require quick thinking, a sound mind and spirit.  They belong to different organizations and volunteer a lot of their time toward civic and community services.  Their homes usually are very organized.  They  live healthy life styles.  Some  participate in sports events or exercise at the gym.  A doer likes to learn and can be found researching new ways to do things by putting their knowledge into action.  When a crisis hits the doer is right there to take an active part in what ever needs to be done.

Unlike the Doer, the Gonna Do appears to have a lot on his or her plate.  Some lack organizational skills while others just plain procrastinate.  They make a lot of false promises and have a problem with commitment.  It appears they have good intentions but spend more time dreaming than doing.  You can find a Gonna Do looking at a project that someone else completed and saying, “I was gonna Do that.”  When a crisis takes place the Gonna Do jumps to the end of the line and waits for someone else to do.  After the situation is over the Gonna Do does not get much credit for a job well done because he or she never got started.

Then there are those well known You Should Do people.  They always think that their way is the only way and are more than willing to tell you how you should do.  They come across a little bossy and have difficulty seeing your life as being different to theirs.  Even though they might be good people they can really get on a person’s last nerve.  Don’t even bother to argue or prove a point with a You should Do person because it is just a lost cause.  In a crisis the You Should Do people need to just hush and take a seat somewhere.

We will have and have always had these three types of people so here is my suggestion on how to keep things flowing productively with a mix of these folks.

  1. Let the Should Do People do their thing independently and allow them to take care of their own little world.  They will make accomplishments but keep your distance so that you can create things on your own too.
  2. Now for the Gonna Dos you need to practice a little patience and tolerance.  It might even be helpful to just hand them something and tell them to get started.  Sometimes they just need a little push.
  3. Always count your blessings and be grateful for the Doers.  You might want to join up with them and have a little fun.  Then again maybe you are in a place that you can just sit back, rest, relax and allow them to do.

Just remember folks, no matter what, there are always going to be different kinds of people.  As a matter of fact each type has something to teach us.  By observing these folks we can decide just what kind of a person that we want to be or even maybe we might just want to be a little of all three.

Originally posted 2011-02-02 17:49:47.

Boomers Can Be Grey And Groovy

Experts argue there is a lot to be said for staying active and engaged during your retirement years. You will not only be healthier and live longer, but you will be able to create an entirely new life and find your true happiness doing those things you never had the time for while you were still working.

Wearing your retirement lightly
How times have changed since you first entered the job market, wore a suit or silk stockings to the office, and used terms like “groovy”! Now you are facing retirement, and old folk no longer look like old folk back in the day. The elderly wear jeans and T-shirts, try to decipher the texts their grandchildren send them, and no longer take retirement lying or sitting down!

Experts argue there is a lot to be said for staying active and engaged during your retirement years. You will not only be healthier and live longer, but you will be able to create an entirely new life and find your true happiness doing those things you never had the time for while you were still working.

Where to begin to plan for a rich and rewarding retirement? Well, here are some ideas to get you started.

Give in order to receive

There are few things that act as such an immediate pick-me-up, confidence booster and natural high as helping those who are less fortunate. There are many ways in which you can pay it forward, whether by using the skills and experience you have gained during your career or by simply sharing of yourself and your time. Charities, welfare organizations and even political causes are always appreciative of an extra pair of helping hands, and you will get back far more in terms of the feel-good factor and a sense of working for something bigger than yourself.

Open your mind

You may be concerned that you are starting to forget things – no worry, learn some new stuff to replace what you’ve forgotten! It may be decades since you last seriously studied or sat for an exam, but the great thing about studying when you are retired, is that you don’t have to worry about getting good grades. You are simply learning for personal growth and development, and because a particular subject interests you. What better reasons are there?

Consider taking a course in something unexpected, such as a sculpting class or a guitar course, or even learn at home with dvd guitar lessons, its the next best thing to having your own private tutor. Find out if there is an art school in your area, or go online and be prepared for the wealth of information about anything from flower arranging to learning how to master blues guitar.

Unleash your creativity

The routine and structure of corporate life has had a hold on you for a very long time; now it is time to let down your hair (or wear a French beret if you no longer have hair) and find the artist within you. Kick off your sensible shoes and join a dance group. Express yourself through writing, singing, art and music.

But you don’t have to do the dance of the seven veils to connect with your creative side. A fun way to start is to take up scrap booking – organize your family photos and mementos in an album, and bring some artistic flair to the project. You will be doing three things at once: Tidying up your valuable treasures, creating a beautiful object, and giving your loved ones something truly memorable of yourself. Creating a beautiful handmade book or illustrated diary can be the next step.

Reality is virtual

You may think that you are up to speed, for a golden oldie, because you have a smartphone, and you know how to send an MMS. But what about Skype? Which blogs do you follow? And do you have a twitter account? Obviously it’s not necessary to keep up to date with every cyber fad that comes along, but from the comfort of your dining room table you can do some fancy things these days. It will be worthwhile to get to grips with internet shopping, for example, if you haven’t already done so. And to connect with groups online that are interested in the kinds of things you are interested in. Believe it or not, through the internet you can establish a real sense of being part of a community of, say, chess enthusiasts.

Smell the daisies

Something that is truly good for both body and soul is taking a stroll in nature. And when you have spent several hours immersed in cyberspace, this is just what you need. You can find out whether there are walking or hiking groups in your area, or you could arrange to take regular walks with a friend at set times. When you were still working, you would hope for good weather at the weekend; now you can simply make use of a sunny day with no restrictions. Or simply take a book and some bottled water along to the park on a nice day.

Pets are priceless

The value that an animal can add to your life is enormous: They are loyal, loving, devoted friends who will encourage you to be more active, make you feel special and needed, relieve stress and provide companionship 24/7.

Originally posted 2013-03-12 17:17:37.

How To Get a Florida Sun Tan The Hard Way

By now most of you know that I am just a country gal that moved to the big city so most of my back in the day stories are from getting out of the country and learning about life.  That brings me to a story about my vacations to South Florida where my brother lived.  He was a fun guy with a great sense of humor who had done it all and continued to live out all his dreams until his death and therefore became the Man in my Eyes.

So I took my first jet plane ride to pay him a visit in his home in Lake Worth, Florida outside of West Palm Beach.  Since it was the middle of July, I remember getting off the plane and thinking I had fell into a sauna bath.  I had never felt that type of climate nor seen a palm tree so this was the beginning of my brother having a little fun with his young sis.

I had big plans to get a beautiful sun tan like the beautiful girls that I had seen in the magazines.   So on arrival at his house I headed for the bedroom to change into my one piece bathing suit.  My suitcase was packed with jeans and such.  My brother looked at me and with his dry sense of humor said, “Sis that’s a lot of bathing suit.  Now if you want something to drink you can get it out of the refrigerator cold or pick some grape fruit or oranges off the trees in the back.  Just make yourself and home.”  It did appear that he was laughing inside but little did I know why but I was soon to learn.

Out to the patio I went with a cold drink, a water bottle, sun screen, towel and headed for the lawn chair to acquire that beautiful sun tan from the Florida sunshine. Darn there were grape fruits and oranges all over those trees.  I couldn’t tell which was which since all of them were big and the same color but I wasn’t about to let him know of my dumbness.  Now I was a few minutes into this thing and sat down.  Ouch!  The darn chair burned my leg.  Next my body began to sweat like all get out.  My head felt like the sun was sitting on top of it.  I sprayed myself with the water in the bottle and darn if it had not even turned hot already.  That one piece bathing suit felt like a Hugh elastic band tightening up my body and my legs were bright red. I hadn’t even gotten to the sun screen.  My hair was soaked with sweat and my sun glasses were steamed over. Lizards darted all around the chair and the sand burned my feet.  Then I rubbed a little lotion on to get that beautiful tan but found myself covered in sand because I had laid the bottle on the ground.  So ten minutes into this Florida sun tanning experience there I sat, sweating, scratching, burning, thirsty with my feet in the air to stay away from the lizards and dreaming of AIR CONDITIONING.

My brother Paul was relaxed back in his lazy boy chair inside taking a little nap but not really asleep just waiting for my dumb self to come inside so he could have a little fun with me.  Okay, I thought something is wrong with this picture.  I have to go in to cool off, get this sand off my body and take a look at my beautiful tan.  There he sat just waiting.  I came in grumbling about how hot I was and looking quite a mess.

Slowly Paul looked up with that I got her playful grin and said, ”  Sis you have only been out there for ten minutes.  That suit looks like a tent.  It takes longer than that to get a tan in Florida. Did you check out any of the little stores at the airport to see if they bottle Florida sunshine for St. Louis gals because it appears you might need it.”  That was my first lesson learned in Florida.

  1. Don’t bother taking heavy clothes with you in July just wait until you arrive and go to the consignment shops for little or no clothing
  2. Don’t go in your brother’s back yard at 1 p.m. when there is no air circulating and the sun in burning hot.
  3. Make sure you read a book on Florida lizards before leaving your city.
  4. Read up on oranges and grape fruits because they are very different colored when falling off the trees than in the stores.
  5. Make sure you have a good pair of Florida sandals for your feet.  Leave the heavy designer boots up North.
  6. Don’t rush to get a tan within a 10 minute time span in someones back yard.  Take a nap first and relax then head for a beach where the wind is blowing.
  7. If you happen to have a relative that you are visiting, I would suggest asking a few questions about Florida sunshine, sand, climate daily changes and any other things you might need to learn before landing in South Florida.
  8. Don’t dare let your older brother get over on you.  Be wise.  Ask him questions before beginning this adventure.  After all he knows much more about it than you and it is okay to learn before experiencing pain.
  9. Take a deep breath.  Go to the shower.  Look in the mirror.  Don’t expect to see a tanned magazine bathing beauty but instead a red sweating City Gal.  Get a nice soft white tee shirt from your brother for after the shower clothing attire.
  10. Shower, relax, chill out, enjoy the air conditioning.  Take a little much needed nap.  After the nap start preparing for your next days adventure on the boat deep sea fishing.

There is six more days to this story and I learned a lot the first day.  The second day is to begin at 4 a.m. to get ahead of the hot sun on the fishing trip to catch Jaws himself. Now like there is a way of getting away from Florida sunshine in July. The Country City Gal Goes Deep Sea Fishing For The First Time!  Stay tuned.  I have learned from all my experiences after thirty years and I need to take a little nap, chill out and relax before writing this next story.  Stay tuned.  Come back for my BIG FISHING TALE in the great salt water of a Big Ocean!

For Boomer Vacations

Originally posted 2010-12-29 01:12:53.

Boomer Review: Common Sense 101

Today’s times have gotten a bit hectic. Common sense use to be something that my parents encouraged me to use at all times. According to encyclopedia.com, common sense knowledge is defined as the routine knowledge we have of our everyday world and activities. To me that just means, get back to the basics people. We boomers have a tenacity to complicate things. I am going to list a few common sense basics just for review purposes for all of us.

Today’s times have gotten a bit hectic. Common sense use to be something that my parents encouraged me to use at all times. According to encyclopedia.com, common sense knowledge is defined as the routine knowledge we have of our everyday world and activities.  To me that just means, get back to the basics people.  We boomers have a tenacity to complicate things.

I am going to list a few common sense basics just for review purposes for all of us.  These are not listed in any special order  of importance but I am sure that you probably can relate to all of these.  Heck, a few of these even gave me a chuckle, maybe it will give you a smile too.

COMMON SENSE

  1. It is not necessary to use the computer to look up a definition to common sense.  If you do, with all the long reads, it will only complicate things more.  I know.  I just did it!
  2. It is OK to trust yourself.  People have been doing it from the beginning of time.  We boomers are of age now and we don’t need the permission of others to be happy!
  3. Remember, when using a credit card that the bill will be due.  If the house payment is not paid or the rent then don’t buy a 60 inch television with a credit card.  After all, who needs an electric television if one has no electricity.
  4. When grocery shopping, make sure you eat and DO NOT go to the store hungry.  A hungry person tends to grab more than necessary off those nice snack shelves.
  5. If you drink alcoholic beverages, to avoid a headache, consider drinking only a couple.  Learn to practice saying, “No thank you.”  Even better, maybe just sip on some healthy water.
  6. If you have been using the old standard land line phone and get in the mood to buy a new improved cell phone then be prepared for a learning experience.  I bought one 4 months ago and I am still on step one.
  7. Do not get so busy that you forget to have the oil changed in your vehicle.  Use common sense and put the minor things up front to prevent major crisis.
  8. If your underwear drawers are getting too full then you might want to consider throwing away the ones that have not been worn in a year or so.
  9. If you are buying a new house, do not assume all of it is in good condition just because it has beautiful curb appeal.
  10. If your boss asks you to do something within your job description then do it.  Know when to say yes and know when to say no.
  11. Do not be afraid to ask for help if you need it.  After all someone just might want to help.  The worst that can happen is being rejected.  We are grown, we can deal with that!
  12. Make sure the lid is screwed tight on the mustard and pickle jars before you put them back in the refrigerator.  Cleaning up the mess from a spill is NOT FUN.
  13. No matter how busy you get, remember to take the time for a toilet break when needed.  I will not go into the details on this one because I am sure that you have my visual.
  14. If your lawn needs cutting then cut it.  After all the city inspector has more to do than send you a notice.
  15. When eating chocolate ice cream stop when you are full.  I know it is delicious but there are consequences to over indulging to include bulging.

Most important, remember to laugh at yourself because we ALL make mistakes sometimes!  Use common sense and loosen up because you baby boomers have earned it!  Use common sense and make sure you take time to play no matter how old you are!

Originally posted 2011-03-30 15:57:36.

Baby Boomers Come Full Circle

What do Robin in NYC, Ann in St. Louis and Robert in Atlanta have in common? More than you might expect. since all three are boomers at a certain stage of life. Connecting on Facebook you can see commonality.

Robin recently retired buying a second home in Miami Beach. Ann downsized and moved to a senior living community. Robert is moving from his 3 level suburban home to a Del Webb active adult community. A more suitable residence in retirement is certainly a common theme these days with older boomers.

We have been downsizing. Robert posted on Facebook his baby pictures (above) from 67 years ago that he was disposing of. This brought a plethora of comments. Family members not wanting their relatives photos discarded. Robin like my wife Mary Ann is the keeper of one of her parents photos that were inherited. What to do with those? Scan and upload to the cloud? And how about your own photos from a long life? Well we don’t have children, so those big prints of my baby pictures that my mother thought were so good, are now in the recycle. Each person’s decision about what to do with family photographs and other keepsakes will be different, but we are all faced with the dilemma. Meanwhile shredding even business records brings back a flood of memories. Observations are made… look how cheap things were… how skinny we were.

By the way, it turns out all three of us have been or are bloggers. We like to tell stories from our lives, some from a long time ago, others from what is happening in our lives currently. These stories bring others to comment about how they remember too or this is what they are now doing also.

I know a lot of my friends are enjoying traveling quiet a bit. We are too. It is fun and interesting to hear about trips my friends are taking.

Ann says it seems we boomers have come full circle. I offer that we come into this world with nothing and we will leave with nothing. But I think Ann is talking about more than just that. We baby boomers seem to be connecting more these days.

Remember when we were growing up, in those new schools being build for us, going off to college, being drafted, etc. We were all going through something new together. Then life happened and we went our different ways. But now having the time and inclination to connect again, we see that we do have a lot in common, memories but new experiences too. Rick Bava brought a lot of this together in his new book “In Search of The Baby Boomer Generation” which you will both enjoy and it will enlighten you on trends in our boomer lives today as well.

Anyway, thanks to Robin and Ann for a lively chat on Facebook and inspiring this post.

Robert Fowler

Originally posted 2015-07-26 16:31:44.

A Story OF Love From The Heart Of A Boomer

Sixty-two years ago I was born as a change of life baby on December 23,1948 to my parents who did not expect me to happen.  My mother was in her 40’s and my father in his 50’s.  Most of my childhood life was spent with older people.  Today I find myself as one of those people sitting here on Christmas eve. thinking about you and thinking about me.  Yes, I said you, the Boomer Generation of people.

There is snow on the ground.  Outside my door it is very quiet as though for just a few moments the world is still and at peace.  Some are with families.  Some are sitting with that special husband or wife.  Some are playing with their grandchildren.  Some are traveling to other places to visit friends. Some are sitting alone. Others are preparing meals to share with their love ones tomorrow.  Some may be watching television, reading a book, playing a game on the computer, waiting for a telephone call, wrapping a present, or ending a day of work.  There are some like police officers, fireman, health care workers, security people, truck drivers and etc. that may be working tonight and might be working tomorrow.

There are boomers that might be in nursing homes, hospitals, and even some in far away lands helping to keep our country safe.  Others might be volunteering their time in homeless shelters and even some boomers might be homeless.  Some boomers may have had children others may not.    Some may be blessed with riches and fame.  Then there are some who have very little and their pockets might me empty.  Some may have high educations and others little or no education.  Some may be sitting around a warm fireplace while others may be wishing for a warm fire.

In all of this there is somethings that we share in common.  We have a story.  We have a heart that can be prepared to forgive.  We have gained much wisdom.  We have experienced a lot.  We have made some kind of a mark on the world as it is today.  We can believe.  Some may be able to sing while others may only be able to smile.  Some like me might have a desire to write and share what I am feeling in my heart.

Tonight I think of you.  Tonight I think of me.  Tonight I want to reach out and give each one of you a hug.  Tonight if I was powerful enough, I would give you peace, love, joy, comfort, health, wealth, and a world filled with peace but I am not that powerful.  I do have the ability to write.  I do have the ability to feel.  I do have the ability to show compassion.  I do have the ability to care for others.  I do have the ability through this writing to let you know how special I believe that each and everyone one of you are.  No matter where you are, no matter what you are doing, no matter how you are feeling let it be known that tonight someone has thought of YOU.    We are one.  We are the people of the world.

Originally posted 2010-12-25 15:04:48.