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Baby Boomers Get Older and Happier

I have been reading a good book titled “Older And Happier!” by Dag Sebastian Ahlander.  He has 109 handy ideas for living life to the fullest. It’s about living the good retirement life from his perspective as a happy old man.

As a retired person and a student of retirement, I could relate to so many of Dag’s ideas. They are simple but effective. Here are some of my favorites.

1. Keep in mind that time is short but life is long

He reminds us that we have had a long life and seen so many changes and events. It is not that life is short, but the time remaining is short.

He reminds us to grab hold of life right now and make something great of what is left. The road doesn’t go on forever and we are on the homestretch.

2. First and foremost: be a happy old man!

The most important is to accept your age and enjoy it’s many opportunities. Greet each morning with smile. Everything depends on your attitude and health. Let your perspective expand. Accept life’s terms and make the best of them. Forget all the bad things that have happen in your life and just move on.

3. Don’t Downsize

This is an interesting one to me since I just bought a retirement home the same size as my current home, so I must agree. He says you will need a bigger space now, because you can finally enjoy it for guests, hobbies, computer room.

4. Don’t become a micromanagement guru

I like this one. He days don’t dwell on the small things like you did for years at work. Try to see the bigger picture. Throw out old papers and things that never gave you pleasure. Don’t hoard.

5. Live in the present

Nothing says old age like living in the past. Don’t fight the times. Everything didn’t used to be better.

6. Let go of former prestige.

Men especially have identified too heavily with our careers. Give it up. The hierarchies are gone, how liberating! Talk with each other on a level field and you will have a more active social life.

Wow, that is only 6 of the 109 ideas in Dag’s book about being happy in retirement. Of course he goes into more details about the above points and others in the book. Any baby boomer leading up to retirement should read his boomer book to pick up on some of his helpful ideas. Those of us who are already in retirement can nod in agreement and be reminded of what we have learned on our own and to BE HAPPY.

 

 

Originally posted 2015-01-07 16:39:02.

Put The Gold Back Into Golden Years – Take Time To Feel

Stop, I say STOP! Get off the energy drinks and bring back the sun tea. Do away with the texting long enough to give a hug. Stop making excuses! There is one thing that has not changed and that is time. There is still twenty-four hours in every day. Trash the negative. Bring back the value system. Do away with one hundred and sixty television channels and take the time to watch the stars in the sky. Replace worry with gratitude. Put love in the place of hate. Let robots be robots and humans be humans.

Like many other boomers, I have had change after change in my life.  Some dreams have fell threw the cracks and others have remained on course.  The one definite thing that I have learned is that one has to always be ready to sail the way the wind blows.  Plans can change in an instant as life carries us threw the ups and downs.  Then one day we reach our final destiny.  It is time.  We are face to face with decisions that in our younger years looked so far away.  What seemed so cut and dried  many years ago is now being put to the test with what is best today. The wind has changed directions so therefore we  alter our course of action with the best plan in mind for living life.  Boomers through out the world are finding themselves faced with this reality.

Back in the day, I do not remember hearing much about retirement since my parents lived in a small country town.  Most folks just worked as they usually did farming, gardening and helping others in what ever way that they could.  As they grew older, they usually took care of themselves as usual with the help of neighbors, friends and family.  There was not a big discussion regarding retirement or travel.  They were grateful to get through each day and spend a leisurely Sunday afternoon sitting under a shade tree telling tales from the past.  If they had grown children, most of them had already moved away to the big city to get jobs.  Those children would visit them during vacation time, holidays and week ends.  The families looked forward to these get together.  The elderly never seemed to be alone or without a tale to tell.

Some of the elderly had worked long enough to draw small social security checks while others drew welfare checks.  This was before food stamps. On a monthly basis some folks went to near by towns and picked up what was called commodities.  The commodities consisted of cheese, canned meat, flour, corn meal, powdered milk and beans.  The elderly were poor but proud.  They planted gardens, canned foods, and always seemed to have enough to eat plus never hesitated to share what they had with others.  This is the way that they lived until it came time for their final resting place.  People helped each other and cared.

Today is a lot different than those times many years ago. Some of the younger generation live with their aging parents which have the name called baby boomers.  Baby Boomers do a lot of travel, if at all possible, plus work, worry about money, retirement funds, job loss, down sizing, health care, the economy, national disasters, fitness, wrinkles, and the list goes on and on.  The elderly are filling nursing homes as the boomers struggle to try to meet demands that face them.  Some elderly are trying to age in place.  They worry about their boomer kids.  They wonder why they do not hear from them or see them like the get together back in the day.  Then there are some of the younger generation that very seldom see their parents or grandparents.  The excuse is usually the same.  There just isn’t enough time, money or whatever.

Stop, I say STOP!  Get off the energy drinks and bring back the sun tea.  Do away with the texting long enough to give a hug.  Stop making excuses!  There is one thing that has not changed and that is time.  There is still twenty-four hours in every day.  Trash the negative.  Bring back the value system.  Do away with one hundred and sixty television channels and take the time to watch the stars in the sky.  Replace worry with gratitude.  Put love in the place of hate.  Let robots be robots and humans be humans.

Remember this!  You can not go back and enjoy that, which you failed to see, touch, hear or missed when it is already gone!  Put the color gold back into the golden years.  A cloud can only have a silver lining if you choose to see it.  Honey is only sweet as you taste it.  A smell of a rose can only be enjoyed if you take the time to smell it.  It is okay to feel because there will be a day when a feeling will become a cherished memory!

Originally posted 2011-06-14 19:06:56.

Ten Reasons Food Tours Are A Good Idea

Food Tours Are A Good Idea

This month while on vacation in Asheville NC, we noticed on TripAdvisor that the number one rated activity was Asheville Food Tours. We made a call and went on the tour the next day and had a blast!

Back home we wondered if there were any food tours nearby and found one on Canton Street in Roswell GA.  Our neighbors joined us and we did the Roswell Food Tour yesterday and loved it. Mariel was our guide and did an excellent job with everything. Everyone in our party was impressed with the Roswell Food Tour.

I had never even heard of Food Tours before this month but now am a big fan.  Food Tours seem to be spreading across the country and are worth checking out.

What is a Food Tour?

A walking food tour with a local guide usually visits about 4 or 5 restaurants sampling courses at each and maybe visiting an olive oil store and/or chocolate shop as well.

Food tours normally take place in the less busy part of the day so you can get special attention. Our Asheville Food Tour was between 2 and 5pm and our Roswell Food Tour was between 4 and 7pm.

There were only 4 people on our Roswell Food Tour but 10 people on our Asheville Food Tour and I have heard of groups of 13 people. We liked the group of 10 people because we really bonded with new people but on the other hand the group of 4 with our private party was nice since we had the guide all to ourselves.

Foods Tours usually visit locally owned restaurants and the owner or manager comes out to speak with the group about the restaurants and some of their dishes.

Walking to the next restaurant in Roswell
Walking to the Table & Main in Roswell

There is some walking involved so wear comfortable shoes and an umbrella. Walking to each restaurants is nice and the guide will point out interesting things about the buildings or landmarks as you walk by.

The guide keeps the group on schedule moving between the restaurants and there is no waiting to get in as they are expecting your group and will have the food and drink ready to be served as soon as you sit down. That is nice!

The food is wonderful. You may get appetizers at one restaurant, a main dish at the next,  more sides dishes at the next and a dessert along the way.  The Asheville Food Tour gave us a coupon for 10% off any of the restaurants for visits within 5 days.

I already have the Athens Food Tour on my list. To find Food Tours just search the city name plus Food Tours.  Here are some reasons I think you will like a Food Tour.

Ten Reasons Food  Tours Are a Good Idea

1. Exciting and fun new experience. Feels like a vacation.
2. Great way to try new restaurants, especially in a new city.
3. Meet new people. People bond while having a great time.
4. Special attention – Seating without a wait at a reserved table. Food ready to serve. Menu selections made.
5. Great way to entertain visitors or friends.
6. Great thing to do when you are on vacation.
7. Learn about and sample interesting foods you never tried before.
8. Friendly and entertaining guide keeps a flawless schedule that keeps things interesting and fun.
9. Restaurant owner or manager will make you feel like a friend while giving you the background and specialties of the restaurant.
10. Learn historical facts about area and see interesting things

 

Roswell Food Tour group
Roswell Food Tour at Greenwoods
Patrick with Asheville Food Tour
Patrick with Asheville Food Tour
Olive Oil Tasting on Food Tour
Olive Oil Tasting on Asheville Food Tour

Local Food Tours
Asheville Food Tours
Georgia Food Tours
Charlotte Food Tours
Savannah Food Tours
New Orleans Food Tour
Seattle Food Tour

Originally posted 2014-06-30 21:31:08.

Your Feelings Do Count

It appears that lately, I have been writing a lot about feelings, which is true. I have. Our feelings are a natural process of our thoughts and intentions. They can be negative or positive. Feelings should not be ignored but must not overtake us to the point that we feel paralyzed by them.

It appears that lately, I have been writing a lot about feelings, which is true.  I have.

Our feelings are a natural process of our thoughts and intentions.  They can be negative or positive.  Feelings should not be ignored but must not overtake us to the point that we feel paralyzed by them.  I am not a physician, psychologist, clergy or a person with a degree in feelings.  The one thing that I am is human and you are too if you are reading this blog.  Feelings are something that we all have and deal with in life.  Many articles have been written about feelings therefore always remember that they are important.  As human beings we must pay attention to our feelings.  Denying them will do no good.  Feelings have a way of manifesting themselves in many ways.  By paying attention to them we can find ways to lessen pain and make changes from negative to positive or accept what is in our life.  For me writing is the best way that I can begin to get my feelings out in the open and put them into perspective.  Until I have done this, I do not feel peace.  It is a wonderful thing to know that peace can be regained when we are willing to work toward it.  Hopefully by sharing some thoughts with you, you will be inspired to love yourself and know that your feelings are important in order to know peace.

First, I will say that you are not alone.  Also being truthful with ourselves is not always easy. It takes practice.  Sometimes it may be necessary to feel pain in order to do the work needed to regain peace.  Remember, it is our thinking that gets us into trouble.  We need to get our thoughts back on the right track.  You are not less than or more than, you are you.  No one likes to admit that they are not perfect but for me that is the first step.  When I become uncomfortable enough it becomes easier. So here it goes.  I am doing it now with your help as you read and I write.

  1. If you are physically sick, tired, lonely, or any other negative emotion then admit it.  I have been the greatest offender of saying, “Oh, it is a beautiful day, I should not feel this way.” I am here to tell you the weather is not the problem.  Maybe you are over worked, grieving a loss or missing a love one.  Get honest! Then and only then can you get control of your thoughts and take the steps necessary to feel better.
  2. When I was a child my parents taught me to always say NO when offered a treat, gift or something.  I can remember putting on a false smile, pushing back the tears and wanting so bad to say yes.  I know today that I was taught false pride.  Not only that, I was cheating another person out of the good feel of giving. Practice changing old tapes in your head and replace them with healthy ones.  It is okay to trust.
  3. There was a time when I worked two jobs and gave one hundred and fifty per cent at both of them.  As some of you do, I then had to have the cleanest house, the manicured lawn and everything in its correct place.  I denied that I needed rest and put everyone else before me.  Relax, it is okay to not be super human.
  4. As a child I was lead to believe that I was suppose to love everyone but it was not important if I was not loved.  It is important!  BELIEVE that you are loving and deserve love.

Your feelings are important.  They are sending you a message.  Listen closely to them.  Write them down.  Talk to someone about them.  Own them.  Get help if you need it.  Do not deny them.  Take charge!  Be the special person that you really are and know PEACE! If or when they get out of order keep practicing and each time it will become easier because not only will you love yourself, you will love PEACE.

By the way, thank you!  Writing did really help and I hope to read what you have to write.  🙂

Originally posted 2011-06-28 21:23:26.

Boomers: How to Find a Cheap Vacation

Get a Reduced Rate on Your Vacation Accommodations & Have a Cheap Vacation. What have you found shopping for a Great Rate on Vacation Lodging? This works to save you money on vacations.

Boomers: Need a Cheap Vacation?

Want to go somewhere warm and with a beach? You bet! We all do. Here are a few ideas to save money while taking a nice vacation & no coupons required, offers or daily deals! The first question you have to ask yourself is do I want to vacation in the US or outside of the US. If you vacation in the USA then I recommend vrbo.com That is Vacation Rentals By Owner. I have rented from them about 7 times and I have been very satisfied most of the time. I re-rented with one of the owners about 4 times. I believe we both got a good deal. I paid 100% in advance and did not damage the property. I tried to take care of it as if it were my own. The owner took some risk on me the 1st time but the additional times, there was no risk and they knew what they were getting and they liked what they got. Here is how I selected my housing. I searched VRBO’s website for a housing that met my requirements.

You can select Pet Friendly, Smoking Permitted, etc. I narrow it down to 5 properties and if possible, I try to find listing with an owner in the state I reside. I think as a local, the owner might not worry as much as he see’s that I live locally too. If the owner is nervous, they may hedge on giving you a good price. I read each of the 5 ads and call with a question or two. If an owner does not respond then I am done with them. If I speak to an owner and they sound difficult then I am done with them. If I can not get a net price from an owner, then guess what? I am done with them. I want a price that includes all charges tax, cleaning fee, etc. I compare prices and I have seen differences of up to $300. for the same # bedrooms, bathrooms, etc.

I think some of the owners bought a bad deal or are strapped for money and this is what they “feel” they have to charge. That is why what they are charging is so out of touch. They would be better to price aggressively as it is better to get some rent than no rent. Some indicate by phone that they will negotiate, some indicate their price is firm. I don’t want a low price and a tough owner but then I will not accept a high price and an easy owner. Have you every bought a used car from an individual? Did the individual think that their vehicle was worth more than the market? That is a frequent complaint. Sometimes the owners fit this criteria. My repeat owner has done me special favors liked cleaned up the condo early from the last people so I could leave my stuff and attend a wedding. I always send my $ to the owner earlier than they require and I think they like that. To my repeat owner, I pay in full even when not required because I want to make them feel good about the rental.

I like to vacation where I have been and enjoy. We eat where we like and enjoy. We typically eat where the “locals” eat. To do that I try to meet and talk with some one before I ask about a place to eat. Sometimes people are disappointed when they do this but I think it is because they ask just anyone for a good place to eat instead of talking at length with some one who you think after talking with them would maybe recommend a good place. If you hear about a place more than once, that is a good sign. One of the best sources would be a concierge at a hotel. You have to be candid with them to get a place that meets your requirements. If you are looking for a fast food restaurant, then ask someone who eats or works in a fast food restaurant but you might want not to ask someone who works in a fast food restaurant about a fine dining place.

If I have a good waiter in a restaurant, I will ask them about another restaurant for food that does not compete with them. If I am in a store and either the clerk or the owner seem like people who I feel might have some good suggestions, I will ask them. Sometimes I eat at chains that are good and not near where I live but are easily available when I am on vacation. See a previous post for how I get the best deal on gas & hotels. I have stopped at the state welcome center for their coupon booklets but I have them now in my favorites and I can view some of them on line instead of stopping at the welcome center

Originally posted 2011-12-23 14:13:45.

Don’t Be a Baby Boomer Know It All

After age 50 Boomers can feel like you have done it all – and you probably have. It’s the “been there done that” feeling and attitude. But don’t become a boomer know it all. Here’s how.

After age 50 you can feel like you have done it all – and you probably have.  It’s the “been there done that” feeling and attitude.  A lifetime of experiences remain with us boomers and we recall them to help us deal with life today and sometimes to share with others to guide them with our lessons learned.

At this stage of life you can feel confident in what you are doing and feel you can handle anything thrown at you. But if you think you always have the right comprehension of every situation, you may be a know it all.

If you have an opinion on everything regardless if you actually know anything about the subject, you may be a “know it all”.

Know it alls like to bombard their ideas and perils of wisdom to impress and show their perceived superior knowledge of a subject to elevate themselves above others. (Sounds like most of the talking heads on TV doesn’t it!)

Know it alls have a way of putting others down by implication since obviously they know it all and you know nothing except what is learned from them.

Sometimes we Boomers use our experience to give “what you should do..” advice to those younger than us.  Too much of this can be tiring to those on the receiving end and will qualify you for the “know it all” moniker.

So what can you do to overcome being viewed as  a “know it all”?

Be a lifelong learner curious to learn new things and asking questions to gain more knowledge.   Being a student rather than a teacher.  A know it all attitude will make it harder to learn.

Realize you can’t impart your knowledge just by giving a discourse of what you know.  You can spark an interest in learning in others and let them learn from their own experiences.

Don’t do all the talking or be overbearing when talking with a less experienced younger person.  This will result in the other party not contributing to the discussion because you already know it all.

At this age do you really need to impress others with an impression you know everything.

It seems the older you get the more we reflect back and recall some boomer stories of our life experiences from our past.  But in conversations with younger people when listening to one of their current experiences don’t try to top it by telling your story about doing the same thing (only bigger or better).

Be humble and respect other people’s views and experiences.  You may actually learn something.   If you don’t know something, say so.

Realize your comprehension of truth is yours but others may have a different comprehension from their experience. Respect differences.

These are some things that I will try to keep in mind myself so I don’t appear as a know it all. I would love to hear your comments and suggestions.

Someone said “I retired from being a know it all, it was too hard to keep up!”

Originally posted 2014-05-26 10:09:07.