An Age to Be Grateful Not Just On Thanksgiving

I have noticed some of my friends in the ages around the late 50s to early 60s talking more about being grateful. In my own life I am doing the same. There must be something about being more grateful as we age.

An Age To Be Grateful Not Just on Thanksgiving

be grateful not just on Thanksgiving

I have noticed some of my friends in the ages around the late 50s to early 70s talking more about being grateful.  In my own life I am doing the same.  There must be something about being more grateful as we age.

It could be we are reflecting more on all the people we have known, the places we have been and the accomplishments and events in our lives.  What a life each of us has had up to this point in time!

There are many people we can be thankful for in our lives.  Think of the people who were your friends at work who you shared lunch time with.  Your colleagues who shared with you, instructed you, who volunteered their time for association meetings as maybe you did too.

Think of your parents who fed and took care of you and sacrificed so your life would be better than theirs.  Think back about other family members like brothers and sisters we shared so much of our lives with, aunts and uncles who gave us presents and cared about us.  Some of these family members are no longer with us. We probably didn’t tell them at the time but we are now grateful for them.

Think of all the places you have been in your life and all the things you have been fortunate enough to experience.   Some of us have traveled to other countries, other states, the nation’s capital, the great Western US, or our National Parks.  Maybe you had the experience of attending a World Series, the Super Bowl, Kentucky Derby, the Olympics, Indy 500, a Broadway Play, or the Petit LeMans.  I am sure you will remember any of those great events and be grateful you made that part of your life.  Maybe it was attending a play at your local high school, your church meetings, or volunteering.  Then maybe you now recognize that life is a journey and simple things like sitting under a shade tree, sitting by a stream,  people watching, or visiting the senior center are all things to be grateful for.

Think of all the things you have accomplished in your life and how grateful you are for them.  These may include raising a family, a happy marriage, your education,  sports or music, a career, a trade or skill you learned really well.  This list could go on but I am betting if you really think about it you are grateful for the opportunity you had to participate in each of these accomplishments.

Now in our everyday life we are becoming more grateful for people we run into like the cashier who smiles and chats with us, the friend who calls and invites us to lunch, a spouse who stays by our side, service workers who wait on our table, clean the hospital and keep this world going.  We can show our appreciation by saying thank you, tipping, holding the door open for people and generally recognizing and showing respect to everyone.

My Thanksgiving challenge to you is As we go through life from this point forward we shall live in the present and recognize every experience, person and place we come across in our lives is something to be grateful for.  All things big and small is to be appreciated.  Showing  gratitude helps too.  This in turn will make us happier and our lives more fulfilled.

So in the spirit of Thanksgiving take some time to think back on all the things you are grateful for.  Maybe this post will jog your memory.

The Invisible People

Invisible people can be found, if one takes the time to look, at shopping malls, small towns, cities, hospitals, street corners and many other places. They are not loud or boastful. Usually they take seats toward the back of rooms. Sometimes an invisible person shows up when least expected but slips into a crowd and is not noticed for what he or she does.

Invisible people can be found, if one takes the time to look, at shopping malls, small towns, cities, hospitals, street corners and many other places.  They are not loud or boastful.  Usually they take seats toward the back of rooms.  Sometimes an invisible person shows up when least expected but slips into a crowd and is not noticed for what he or she does.

You may have missed seeing an invisible person as you rushed rudely toward a department store door to buy that last sale item on the shelve.  The door was not automatic but someone did open it for you.  Then there was the time on the grocery store parking lot when you shoved your empty cart up next to the vehicle next to you without taking it to its proper place.  As you backed out of your parking spot, if you had noticed, the cart was being rolled over to the proper place by a quiet stepping, courteous, caring invisible person.

An invisible person is well liked by others but is very seldom mentioned.  They do not put on a facade or show but instead add a feeling of peace to most situations.  You might not hear from the invisible person for years.  Then one day when you are in need, they are there sitting by your hospital bedside.  They are not afraid to touch your hand or give you a loving warm smile filled with encouragement.  Their voice is usually soft and gentle like a spring breeze in the morning fresh air.

Invisible people are non-judgmental and excellent listeners.  They do not interrupt and are sincerely interested in what you have to say.  Some have high educational degrees while others may have only attended a few years of school.  Their educational degree matters very little because both types of invisible people have so much that they contribute to the world in their own ways.  They are not self seeking.  They do not argue and even though their opinions count, it is not important to them to prove that they are right.  They have a way of carrying themselves with dignity, respect and purpose.  Even in the most stressful of situations, invisible people appear to be at ease.  Their looks and gentle words can sooth the most hurting soul.  They come in all sizes, colors, and backgrounds.  None of this is an issue to them.  They view the world as a gift with each small accomplishment looked upon as a stepping stone in their journey of life.

It is as though they have a special connection with nature.  Critters scurry around them without a care in the world as the invisible person takes a leisurely walk in a park or woods.  They have a special appreciate for color, cloud formations, and natural beauty.  They appear to be at peace with the world and what is around them even on the darkest of days.  They can be content alone or in a crowd but prefer to not be seen.  It is as though they have a sixth sense and know how to share a gentle smile just when you need it the most; that is of course if you choose to slow down long enough not to miss it.

Invisible people are truly humble and understand the meaning of love.  They face fear head on quietly with an attitude of acceptance and peace within.  Invisible people make exceptional friends because they allow you to be your own person and love you just as you are.  So many times though, they go unnoticed because of the chaos and selfishness ways of the world.

Invisible people are really not invisible.  We just need to slow down, appreciate, respect each other and take the time needed to clear our hearts, eyes and ears to allow the invisible people to impact the way we live in society today.  Stop and think about it.  Has your life become so complicated that you missed the opportunity to see and feel the presence of an invisible person today?

Building Healthy Relationships In Today’s World

We boomers have known many relationships in our time.  There are relationships with family, co workers, neighbors, partners, business associates, health care professionals and even those that we meet on Face book and other social media sites.  Then we have a spiritual relationship and even a relationship with our very own being.  Relationships are different.  People are different.  Relationships can be complicated, rewarding, stressful, pleasant, positive or negative.  Bottom line; healthy relationships are necessary in order to feel good, know peace and be successful in our everyday living regardless of circumstances outside of ourselves.

This is a difficult subject for me to write about because I spent many years in unhealthy relationships so I am no expert on the topic, but I do have wisdom.  With that wisdom, I am in a continuing process of living, laughing, loving and learning.  Today I choose to have healthy relationships.  The four L’s are very important as I try to balance my physical, mental, spiritual and emotional self.  It takes work but the work is necessary to our overall health and well being.  With that said, I would like to share a wonderful experience that I have had with Robert Fowler the owner of Retirement Media.  I have never met Robert nor his beautiful wife MA but I think of them as close friends that have given me more than they will ever know.  It is time to say thank you and share some of my own personal secrets with him and you, my friends.  This is how I learned to develop an online working, positive, rewarding relationship with a person that is totally different from me,a person that I have never met.  This is the story and how it brought joy into my life. Robert, alka Mr. Fowler, this is HOW YOU AND MA INSPIRED MY LIFE by giving me the opportunity to practice building a healthy working relationship on line in today’s world! My reward has been great online friends that helped me with my PURPOSE, by living, laughing, loving and learning as we shared our thoughts, feelings and stories.

It began in November of 2010 as I commented on a post on Retirement Media Face Book where I was looking around dreaming of a retirement home on 55communityguide.com.   Up popped this Dude, yes I say Dude, named Robert. Dude is what I have called him a number of times whether HE  liked it or not.  lol  I disagreed with something he said about social security on his site.  Well, I was right, so being my usual, let’s get this right self, I commented.  So this Dude Robert, thanked me.  Yes, he thanked me instead of getting angry.  🙂  Then he even asked me to help him on the site since I had been a consistent commenter.  “Sure”, I thought to myself.  My mind took off with it’s distrusting self, for you see, I had had some bad experiences before in my earlier years of life on line.  The committees in the mind said, “What’s HE wanting?  Who is this ____?  Now does HE, Robert, really think that I am DUMB enough to believe that he owns this place?  Why would HE, Robert, need my help since HE is smart and I am not THAT educated?  Hec, I can’t write.  I am not even computer smart.  It must be a stalker. The Dude, doesn’t even have a pic of his face on this Retirement Media Face book.”  Wow what a trip those committees of the mind took me on since I had not even one little bit of trust left after my negative experience of relationship building on line from years long ago.  Now keep in mind friends that I am writing this for the first time and Robert has no idea that I had all those thoughts. The truth will set you free, I always say… 🙂

To make a long story short, I meditated for a couple of days then agreed.  “Why not? Robert appeared sincere and willing to teach me,” I thought to myself.  “Teach me?  You got to be kidding,” the mind jumped out in full blown negative mode again. 🙁  So our relationship began.  I learned Face booking, tweet twittering, blogging, and google golining.  He, Robert, continued to show respect, kindness, concern, patience, caring while I did everything possible to ruffle his feathers. 🙂  I wrote on his face book site about making chicken and dumplings, my sonic toothbrush and even napping.  Now when I wrote about the importance of a good nap for health I forgot to include the link.  Did Robert get mad or belittle me?  NO, he did not!  He just came back with that calm manner and wrote, “Ann, I need the link because I want to learn more about napping.”  Then there was the time when he had a problem seeing at night while driving so I filled him in on glare proof glasses.  Yes, I did.  Did he get mad?  No!  Then the blogging started.  I could write, but I didn’t know anything about blogging so I just let him know up front, “Robert, I am NOT linking, making pictures and YOU  have to edit.  Did he get mad?  NO!  Instead he welcomed the chance for us to work with each other as we both learned.  Then  I challenged him to a blog, which was, in my opinion, the best one ever!  He shared his experience about a humorous fishing trip with MA.  I found myself ROFL.  It was great!  I could always visualize MA sitting quietly in the background, with her sweet smile, shaking her head but being supportive of Robert’s new adventure with working with Working Boomer.

Now on a more serious note, MA and Robert touched my heart.  They were there with me in spirit as I rode in the ambulance for my emergency heart surgery.  Robert gave me my first and only birthday party on Retirement Media Face book.  He sent me books through the mail for my reading and learning pleasure, not knowing that it was my first time to receive gifts in the mail.  He and MA were there at Christmas time on line and they made my Christmas with a gift from their hearts which brought tears to my eyes as I cried with gratitude.  I spent that Christmas alone but I had my dear friends MA and Robert Fowler in my heart.  He gave me the opportunity to learn, laugh, live and experience the feeling of love for friends that I had not even met.  Robert gave me the opportunity to write and express myself by finding my voice.  Most important of all Robert and MA helped me build confidence and a healthy relationship with friends like you.  Robert gave me the opportunity to express my gratitude for senior centers and resource for senior apartments, low income housing, and beautiful pictures to view on his sites.   I put no human being on a pedestal but I can express my gratitude for the laughter, love, and learning that this work relationship brought to me.

So friends, as you continue your journey in life always remember to live, love, laugh and learn while you can.  Working Boomer will be retiring the name Working Boomer but she will always remember her experience and be grateful for the friends that she has met on line through Retirement Media.  She might stop into Boomer Places now and then to share a story and say, HOWDY FRIENDS..

Thank you Robert Fowler as you continue to spread the love and experiences that you have to share during the rest of your Baby Boomer years.  Much love, joy, success and peace to all of you as you continue building healthy relationships in your journey of life.  Always remember to face life with your head held high, be proud of who you are and never pass up a chance to live, love, laugh and learnPeace be with you all, my dear on line friends.

A Simple Way To Avoid The Monday Blues

Yes, we have the power to change our attitude and avoid the Monday blues. Also just a reminder as I was reminded; gifts of importance such as positive words do not cost, but are worth much to others. Encouragement and love have the power to heal. Words and simple actions can bring SMILES to faces. It is a simple way to give and help others to avoid the Monday Blues.

Monday comes every week as we all know.  As a week end worker, it is my Friday. I turned on my computer to Face book, Google+ and twitter.  There I read where a lot of boomers are tired just as I am on Monday. Some folks sounded a little blue.  Then I looked for positive and encouraging words that others had written on the social network sites.  By doing this, I know that I am not alone but share some of the same thoughts and feelings as other boomers.  I take what I want and leave the rest.  By sharing even small words which are written or said is a gift that we all can give another.  Just for today, I am going to write two things that I read on my face book that encouraged me.  Hopefully it will encourage you.  We are one.  We are human and we ALL  have the ability to express kindness and caring to help ourselves plus others.

Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote this, “I am a human being, not a human doing.  Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life.  You aren’t what you do.  If you are what you do, then when you don’t…you aren’t.”   “Wow, what a simple concept,” I though to myself as I read the words.  Next, I opened an email from a face book friend.  It reminded me not to over do.  Also the person thanked me for a response.  That felt good.

Then I looked at a posting from another young person. This is what it said. “It is very difficult to take care of others unless you have first taken care of yourself. What do you need to do for yourself so that you can be available for others? What needs are going unmet? How can you be kind to yourself?”  My heart sang with a smile as I thought about how young this person was. But yet he took the time to write those words for all of his face book friends to read.  The words gave me hope.

I read another post from a Face book friend that reminded me about how gossip can hurt others.  I smiled.  How simple but how important this is to remember when we speak.  Even silence at times can be a gift.

Yes, we have the power to change our attitude and avoid the Monday blues.  Also just a reminder as I was reminded; gifts of importance such as positive words do not cost, but are worth much to others.  Encouragement and love have the power to heal.  Words and simple actions can bring SMILES to faces.  It is a simple way to give and help others to avoid the Monday Blues.

Remember, as each day passes we become older and wiser.  Each Monday will become more and more important. The last chapter of our life is being written.  So if you didn’t start today then set a goal for next week to keep it simple and avoid the Monday blues.

Your Feelings Do Count

It appears that lately, I have been writing a lot about feelings, which is true. I have. Our feelings are a natural process of our thoughts and intentions. They can be negative or positive. Feelings should not be ignored but must not overtake us to the point that we feel paralyzed by them.

It appears that lately, I have been writing a lot about feelings, which is true.  I have.

Our feelings are a natural process of our thoughts and intentions.  They can be negative or positive.  Feelings should not be ignored but must not overtake us to the point that we feel paralyzed by them.  I am not a physician, psychologist, clergy or a person with a degree in feelings.  The one thing that I am is human and you are too if you are reading this blog.  Feelings are something that we all have and deal with in life.  Many articles have been written about feelings therefore always remember that they are important.  As human beings we must pay attention to our feelings.  Denying them will do no good.  Feelings have a way of manifesting themselves in many ways.  By paying attention to them we can find ways to lessen pain and make changes from negative to positive or accept what is in our life.  For me writing is the best way that I can begin to get my feelings out in the open and put them into perspective.  Until I have done this, I do not feel peace.  It is a wonderful thing to know that peace can be regained when we are willing to work toward it.  Hopefully by sharing some thoughts with you, you will be inspired to love yourself and know that your feelings are important in order to know peace.

First, I will say that you are not alone.  Also being truthful with ourselves is not always easy. It takes practice.  Sometimes it may be necessary to feel pain in order to do the work needed to regain peace.  Remember, it is our thinking that gets us into trouble.  We need to get our thoughts back on the right track.  You are not less than or more than, you are you.  No one likes to admit that they are not perfect but for me that is the first step.  When I become uncomfortable enough it becomes easier. So here it goes.  I am doing it now with your help as you read and I write.

  1. If you are physically sick, tired, lonely, or any other negative emotion then admit it.  I have been the greatest offender of saying, “Oh, it is a beautiful day, I should not feel this way.” I am here to tell you the weather is not the problem.  Maybe you are over worked, grieving a loss or missing a love one.  Get honest! Then and only then can you get control of your thoughts and take the steps necessary to feel better.
  2. When I was a child my parents taught me to always say NO when offered a treat, gift or something.  I can remember putting on a false smile, pushing back the tears and wanting so bad to say yes.  I know today that I was taught false pride.  Not only that, I was cheating another person out of the good feel of giving. Practice changing old tapes in your head and replace them with healthy ones.  It is okay to trust.
  3. There was a time when I worked two jobs and gave one hundred and fifty per cent at both of them.  As some of you do, I then had to have the cleanest house, the manicured lawn and everything in its correct place.  I denied that I needed rest and put everyone else before me.  Relax, it is okay to not be super human.
  4. As a child I was lead to believe that I was suppose to love everyone but it was not important if I was not loved.  It is important!  BELIEVE that you are loving and deserve love.

Your feelings are important.  They are sending you a message.  Listen closely to them.  Write them down.  Talk to someone about them.  Own them.  Get help if you need it.  Do not deny them.  Take charge!  Be the special person that you really are and know PEACE! If or when they get out of order keep practicing and each time it will become easier because not only will you love yourself, you will love PEACE.

By the way, thank you!  Writing did really help and I hope to read what you have to write.  🙂

Boomers Are Strong And Persevere

This is a list of some of the positives that we boomers took part in during our life time.

There has been a lot of writing about different opinions about baby boomers.  Some say that we brought about drugs and a different value system to this world.  As each generation comes along they are recognized for different things that happened during their era.  Boomers are no different.

I choose to dwell on the good regardless of what era it is.  No one generation is all bad or all good.  We all contribute to change and deal with what is put before us.  Each person is unique in their own way.  Instead of wallowing in the blame game, why not pull together and create a more loving, caring, environment for all people.  Stick with the basics.  Use gratitude instead of woe is me.  Use forgiveness instead of resentments.  Do the right thing.  Cultivate an attitude that you will be proud of and those around you will be drawn to follow.  Be a winner by setting an example that even the smallest child can see the good in you.  Show respect.  Do not be afraid to look another in the eye with pride in what you do.  You are important and each thing, big or small, can impact a life.  That life may just be the one that will finish what you started.  This is a list of some of the positives that we boomers took part in during our life time.

  1. We brought on some great rock music which will never be forgotten.
  2. We were there to start the tearing down of prejudice walls.
  3. We watched as the first man walked on the moon.
  4. We took small country roads and made them into highways.
  5. We connected communities so that better health care could be offered to rural areas.
  6. We pounded at the doors of our educational system until it improved.
  7. We protected our country with the dedication of women and men that were strong and persevered.
  8. We came to the relief of our neighbors during disasters such as floods, tornado, and earth quakes.
  9. We restored national monuments so that our history would never be forgotten.
  10. We built bigger, better, and safer parks so that families and children could enjoy what our country had to offer.
  11. We improved transportation so that we all would have the opportunity to enjoy the best.
  12. We introduced the computer, found cures for some diseases, instilled hope for the younger generation.
  13. We changed the way mental institutions were run and put forth guidelines in hospitals for the best of patient care.
  14. We improved sporting events and challenged our youth.
  15. We marched in the biggest of parades and held children on our backs to cheer the folks on.

These are but just a few things that boomers have been involved in as we stood strong.  We were not known as quitters.  Our lives have touched many.   It is up to each one of us what type of impact we want to make on each other.  Boomers are no more important or less important than any other generation of people.  We love our children, grandchildren, the elderly and all that are persevering as we go through the trying times of today.  Love is a powerful emotion so let the love light shine.   We need each other.  So when you walk down the street, help that elderly person, smile at that little child, encourage that hurting soul and remember that life and love will only go hand in hand if we do our part.